Embracing Imperfection: Confessions of a Chronic Planner

Let's take a second to keep it real. You’ve been flirting with that goal of yours like it's the last piece of cornbread to eat with "Big Mama's" collard greens. You’ve stared at it, thought

about it, maybe even Googled “how to talk to your dreams without looking desperate.” You’ve created color-coded plans, bookmarked inspirational quotes, and falsely convinced yourself that reading another article on “Getting Started Now" is the same thing as you getting started now. The truth is, just like you've gotten irritated with the man of your dreams just standing there and starring at you, your dreams are getting tired of waiting on you to make the first move.

Welcome to the Hesitation Zone

This is the weird little space between “I really want to do this” and “Why haven’t I done this yet?” It’s comfortable. Safe. Somehow you have settled in with planning so that you can call it productivity. You can research until your eyes start hurting. You can even take an online course titled “How Make the First Move” and still… not make any moves forward. Sound familiar?

Let’s break down the phases of this unproductive phenomenon:

Phase 1: The Planning Spiral

You get a notebook. Maybe even a fancy one. You write down goals. Then sub-goals. Then you make a vision board. Then you redesign your vision board because “the vibes were not vibing.” Somehow, it’s three weeks later and your goal is still chilling in the “coming soon” section of your life.

Phase 2: The Research Rabbit Hole

You dive into blogs, videos, forums, YouTube vlogs from similar creators from 2014, trying to gather all the information. You know so much now, but you’re also more confused than ever. But now you seem to be stuck with options that you are now unsure about. And surrounded by data that needs further research. Congratulations—you now have a degree in "how to almost start something."

Phase 3: The Comparison Olympics

You open Instagram or TikTok and suddenly it feels like everyone else is already doing it and doing it better. You, meanwhile, are staring at your computer in your pajama pants thinking, “What am I going to cook for dinner tonight”.

Phase 4: The Existential Panic

“What if I fail? What if I’m not good enough for this? What if I start and people see my flaws?!” Newsflash: people seeing your flaws is not an issue. Everyone has the one thing that they are constantly trying to hide and becomes victim to "Imposter Syndrome". The best feature about yourself is your authenticity. And that is brave as hell.

The First Move Isn’t to be Flashy. It’s Freedom.

You don’t need a fancy presentation, color coded step plan. You only need one step. That’s it. Just one. Write the paragraph. Post the first thing. Send the email. Make the phone call. Go for the walk. Open the app. Press the button. Your first move doesn’t need to go viral. It just needs to go forward. The thing is, motion builds motivation. Not the other way around. Waiting to feel ready is like waiting for a sloth to cross a busy road - eventually it will pass, but it will be unenjoyable watching it happen.

But once you move? The energy shifts. You feel a little bolder, a little more legit. You start becoming the person who doesn't just talk about it, but be about it.

Start. Start Now.

Perfection is a myth. Procrastination is a prank. And planning without action is just glorified daydreaming.

So, let’s make this easy:

• Stop waiting for permission.

• Don’t overthink the plan. You've thought about it enough.

• Don’t compare your Day 1 to someone else who has been doing this for a while.

Just do the thing. One thing. And do it NOW. And then tomorrow, do the next.

You got this. And if you need someone to cheer you on while you take that step, just imagine me standing awkwardly nearby holding a glittery sign that says: "Proud Mama!"

And if you are still hesitant about making the first move, book an appointment with me and together we will get you to the finish line.

Make the First Move